Guides for the two of you.
Practical advice, questions and ideas for more closeness and desire. Written to be used, not just read.
Communication
- 140 Questions to Ask Your Partner That Actually Bring You Closer140 questions to ask your partner, from fun and easy to deep, flirty and spicy. Sorted by mood, perfect for date night, road trips or nights on the couch.
- How to talk about sex with your partner (without it getting weird)How to talk about sex with your partner without the cringe: easy conversation starters, the best time to talk, what to say in bed and how to handle a no.
- How to talk about feelings with your partnerHow to talk about feelings with your partner, even when it's hard. I-statements, sentences to borrow, and help when one of you finds it harder than the other.
- How to really listen to your partner: active listening for couplesActive listening for couples, made simple. Techniques that help your partner feel heard, the traps to avoid and exercises you can try together tonight.
- How to ask for what you need without it turning into naggingHow to ask for what you need in a relationship without it turning into nagging. The difference between criticism and a request, plus phrases you can borrow.
- How to say no to sex without hurting your partnerHow to say no to sex without hurting your partner, and stay close anyway. Kind things to say when you're not in the mood, and how to take a no gracefully.
- 36 questions to fall in love: the full list and how to do itThe 36 questions to fall in love, all in one list. How to do them step by step, why they work and how they bring closeness even to couples together for years.
Sex and intimacy
- 29 Sex Positions for Couples to Try Together29 sex positions for couples, from cozy and intimate to new ones to explore. How to do each one, why it feels good and tips to make every position comfier.
- 75 Intimate Questions to Ask Your Partner, From Sweet to Bold75 intimate questions to ask your partner, from sweet to bold. Sexy questions about desire, touch and fantasies, plus how to ask without it feeling awkward.
- Low libido in a relationship: how to find your way back to desireLow libido in a relationship? Why desire fades, how spontaneous and responsive desire work, and 14 practical ways to get back to wanting each other.
- Foreplay tips: 24 ideas for taking your sweet timeForeplay tips for couples: why foreplay matters, how it starts long before the bedroom, and 24 ideas to try, from words and eye contact to touch and play.
- Sexual fantasies in a relationship: what's normal and how to share themSexual fantasies are normal, even in a happy relationship. Learn fantasy vs. reality, how to share fantasies with your partner and how to set safe limits.
- Sex toys for couples: how to get started togetherSex toys for couples, simply explained: the main types, how to bring it up, how to choose your first toy together, and what to know about cleaning and lube.
- Female Orgasm: How to Find What Works for You BothThe female orgasm, explained without the fuss. Why the clitoris is the key, what makes it easier to orgasm and how to find what works for the two of you.
- Dirty Talk for Couples: How to Start, With 60 ExamplesDirty talk for couples with 60 examples in four levels, from soft whispers to bold words. How to get started, what to say and how to stop giggling.
- Oral Sex Tips: How to Make It Amazing Both WaysOral sex tips for couples, both ways. How to go down on a vulva and a penis, positions that keep it comfy and how to say what feels best in the moment.
- How to Last Longer in Bed and Slow Down TogetherHow to last longer in bed without the stress. Why premature ejaculation is so common, techniques you can practice and how to slow things down as a couple.
- How often do couples have sex? What's typical, and what actually mattersHow often do couples have sex? What's typical in a relationship, why there's no right number, and what to do when one of you wants it more than the other.
- BDSM for beginners: how to start slow and safeBDSM for beginners, explained plainly. What dominance and submission are, how to pick a safeword, set limits and start small together as a couple.
- Kinks and fetishes: a list, and how to talk about themKinks and fetishes explained. A kink list of 18 common kinks and what they involve, plus how to bring up a kink with your partner without it getting awkward.
- Anal sex for beginners: how to make the first time feel goodAnal sex for the first time, step by step. How to talk about it, how to prepare, which lube to use, how to find the right pace and what to know about hygiene.
- Mismatched libido: when one of you wants more than the otherMismatched libido is common. How to understand each other when one of you wants more, break the cycle of pressure and find a way that works for you both.
- Tantra for couples: slow sex, breath and presenceTantra for couples, simply explained. What tantric sex is, exercises for breathing and presence, and how to plan a slow evening together, step by step.
Closeness
- Long-distance relationship tips: how to stay close when you live far apartLong-distance relationship tips: daily rhythms, communication, 20 things to do together apart, keeping intimacy alive safely and making reunions great.
- Feeling lonely in a relationshipFeeling lonely in a relationship even though there are two of you? Why it happens, how to bring it up with your partner, and when it's time to get support.
- Quality time for couples: how to make your time together countQuality time with your partner is about being present, not spending money. How to turn ordinary time into quality time, plus 32 things to do together.
- How to feel closer to your partner againWant to feel closer to your partner again? What emotional closeness is made of, why it fades in long relationships, and simple ways to reconnect as a couple.
- Everyday romance: how to show love on a regular TuesdayEveryday romance is small gestures, not grand plans. How to be more romantic without spending a thing, with 32 romantic gestures for a perfectly ordinary day.
- Non-sexual touch in a relationship: when a hug can just be a hugNon-sexual touch in a relationship makes it easier to relax, feel safe and even feel desire. How to talk about it, plus 20 ways to hug and touch more often.
- How to get the spark back: 12 steps for couples who've drifted apartHow to get the spark back in your relationship. Why it fades and twelve practical steps to rekindle it, from small daily habits to new adventures together.
Play and excitement
- Truth or Dare for Couples: Rules, 60 Truths and 60 DaresTruth or dare for couples with easy rules, 60 truths and 60 dares in three levels: cozy, flirty and spicy. A fun game for adults who want to play tonight.
- Sex games for couples: 22 fun bedroom games to play togetherSex games for couples with simple rules: 22 bedroom games from playful to spicy, like blindfold play, sex dice and role play, and how to keep it safe and fun.
- 48 Date Night Ideas at Home That Turn Your Living Room Into a Date48 date night ideas at home that beat another night of couch and phones: food, games, romance, a little spicy, free and easy ones for when you're both tired.
- How to surprise your partner: 36 ideas from sweet little gestures to big plansHow to surprise your partner: 36 romantic surprise ideas, from tiny everyday gestures to big plans, plus how to plan in secret and build anticipation.
- Role play for couples: how to start, plus 18 ideasRole play for couples, from playful to steamy. How to start without it getting awkward, 18 role play ideas for the bedroom, and how to keep it safe.
- Challenges for couples: a 30-day couples challengeA 30-day couples challenge with one small challenge a day: closeness, play, real talk and a few steamier moments. Plus tips to keep it fun the whole month.
Conflict
- Jealousy in a relationship: how to handle it togetherJealousy in a relationship: how to handle the feeling when it hits, how to respond to a jealous partner, and where the line runs between worry and control.
- How to apologize to your partner (and actually mean it)How to apologize to your partner in a way that lands: what a sincere apology includes, the mistakes that ruin it, how to accept one and what forgiving means.
- Silent treatment in a relationship: when silence becomes a punishmentThe silent treatment in a relationship: the difference between needing space and punishing with silence, and what to do when your partner shuts you out.
- Arguing in a relationship: how to fight better, not lessArguing in a relationship doesn't mean something is wrong. How to fight fair: rules that hold up, traps to avoid, and when fights point to something bigger.
- How to make up after a fight and find your way back to each otherHow to make up after a fight: how to take the first step, repair what got broken, find your way back to closeness and talk it over without starting round two.
- The same fight over and over? How to find what's really going onHaving the same fight over and over? How to find what's underneath, spot the pattern you keep falling into and break it, step by step, without anyone winning.
Everyday life and money
- Moving in together: what to talk about before you share a homeMoving in together? The questions to ask first, how to know if it's the right time, the practical stuff to sort out and how to make room for two.
- Money in a relationship: how to talk about finances without fightingMoney in a relationship stirs up big feelings. How to talk about money with your partner, stop fighting about it and find the questions that make it shared.
- The mental load in a relationship: the invisible list someone always carriesThe mental load is all the invisible work at home: noticing, planning and remembering. How it shows up, and how to share the planning, not just the chores.
- Joint or separate finances? Four ways to split expenses as a coupleJoint or separate finances? Four ways couples split expenses, explained. What works when you earn different amounts, and how to pick a setup together.
- Dividing household chores fairly: who does what at homeDividing household chores fairly: practical methods, a simple chore chart for couples, the tasks everyone forgets and how to talk about it without nagging.
- When everyday life takes over your relationship: signs, causes and a way outFeel like your relationship is in a rut and everyday life has taken over? The signs, why it happens and practical ways to break the routine and reconnect.
Family and friends
- Relationship after baby: how to find each other againYour relationship after baby changes, and that's okay. On exhaustion, new roles, sex after a baby and small steps to help you find your way back as a couple.
- Dealing with in-laws: how to handle them as a teamDealing with in-laws or a difficult mother-in-law? How to stay on the same side, set boundaries that actually stick and decide who talks to whose parents.
- Blended family: how to become a family togetherBuilding a blended family? On the stepparent role, patience with stepkids, rules across two homes and how to protect your relationship through it all.
- How to find time for each other when you have kidsFinding time for each other with kids is possible. Small daily moments, date nights at home after bedtime and simple habits that make room for the two of you.
- When your partner doesn't like your friendsYour partner doesn't like your friends? How to understand why, talk about it without a fight, keep your friendships and spot where it crosses into control.
- Holidays and family as a couple: how to avoid the fightChristmas with the in-laws or at home? How to decide whose family to spend the holidays with, take turns fairly, plan early and look after each other.
Meaning and growing together
- The 5 Love Languages: How Do You Show Love?What are the 5 love languages, and which one is yours? Each love language explained simply, with easy ways to show love the way your partner feels it.
- Showing appreciation in a relationship: say it more oftenShowing appreciation in a relationship keeps anyone from feeling invisible. Why it matters, how to say it so it lands, and 36 examples of things to say more.
- Goals for couples: how to plan your future togetherShared goals give you direction and something to look forward to. How to set goals as a couple, examples in six areas and an easy way to check in together.
- Growing together as a couple without growing apartWorried you're growing apart? The signs you're drifting, and how to give each other room to grow in your relationship while still finding your way back.
- Talking about the future together: 48 questions for couples48 questions about your future together: where to live, kids or no kids, work, money, growing old and big dreams. Plus how to talk when your answers differ.
- Rituals for couples: small habits that keep you closeRituals for couples are small habits that make everyday life yours. 30 daily, weekly and yearly couple rituals, plus how to create your own that really last.